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Pedestrian Crash Gives Man New Outlook on Life

Farshid Mohseni is a friend of Mariam Hedayati's brother and was in the area when the Laguna Niguel resident was struck by a car on Oct. 1. He says the incident has changed him for the better.

After hearing about pedestrian, accident on Monday, Oct.1, architect, Farshid Mohseni, says he has a new way of looking at life.

Hedayati is the sister of Mohseni's friend, Mohammed, and he was in the area around the same time when she was struck by a car. The 43-year-old resident was in a crosswalk at Moulton Parkway and Aliso Niguel, when a 45-year-old man's Honda hit her, authorities, said. She remains in critical condition at a local hospital, according to a hospital spokesperson.

Mohseni, who works in San Diego, was asked a few weeks ago by another friend in Laguna Niguel, if he could help redesign a home in the area, he said.

"I drove to Laguna Niguel from Del Mar a few times within the last few days. In my last trip on Tuesday morning, Mohammad did not attend the meeting he had participated in up until then," he recalled. "Later on, I understood the reason was because of this horrific car accident on Monday afternoon that severed his sister's leg and left her with possible head trauma." 

Mohseni says he still doesn't understand how Mohammed was "so strong and brave." Traffic was backed up for hours on Moulton as deputies ordered a SigAlert and many Good Samaritans tried to help Hedayati. 

"To tolerate what happened to his sister, let alone provide other family members support, was and is, amazing to me," he said.

When Mohseni returned to Del Mar on Tuesday evening, he noticed he left his glasses in Laguna Niguel. The next morning, he went to buy a new pair and proceeded to enter the 52 freeway from the Regents on-ramp to go to I-5 North.

That's when he realized he had a flat tire. He pulled to the right and drove above a side curb to give him more protection against the upcoming cars, he said.

"When I put the jack under the car, I started thinking the cars are driving over 65 miles an hour, and it may take someone who is distracted just a few seconds to drive off the lane and hit me trying to replace my flat tire," he said. "I didn't even think about other reasons for the distraction of the drivers such as drugs or alcohol."

He added what he was thinking about was that maybe he, "should not proceed in light of the possibility of an accident such as the one in Laguna Niguel."

But then his luck changed.

"A green truck pulled behind me and a young man in his 20s disembarked," he said. "He approached me with a nice smile and said: 'My truck is made out of steel and will provide a barrier while you are replacing your flat tire.' " 

Mohseni hurried and replaced his tire and, "the stranger even helped him put the flat tire back into the trunk."

"He said he would wait until I pulled away before he left. I shook hands with him and told him about the accident in Laguna Niguel the previous day," he said. 

Mohseni got into his car and left, However, he says ever since he pulled away, he has regretted he didn't askt for the man's contact information.

"I wanted to take him to lunch, give him a hug, and thank him for what he did.  He taught me to do the same thing from here on, and not be self-serving only," Mohseni said. "I feel somebody up there was listening to my cries, and was making sure I was safe for my 7-year-old son. I think we have to emphasize and report the good that happens in our every day life, along with the bad ones such as the accident."

Moshseni says we often take every day life incidents for granted, and "do not elaborate on what puts a smile on our face."

"Last night, I could not fall sleep. I was thinking of the young man who helped me the other day. I felt the warmth of a nice smile on my face," he said. "I feel I am mentally connected to that young man, and want to learn from him. I want to hug him. I have been praying for my friend's sister and looking forward to his smile and warm hug when he tells me she has opened her eyes and said hello."

Ed October 08, 2012 at 02:33 PM
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Tom Berney October 08, 2012 at 02:41 PM
Nice follow up Debbie, I heard the guy that hit her threw something over the wall after getting out of the car, phone, drugs.....,? It takes a second to change a life, when I'm on my street bike I see ppl looking down at a phone and know I'm accepting the risk just riding, That accident will change many lifes and most not for the better like the gentleman in this story, Let's revisit Mira Stevens accident just down the street from this one, A family left without a wife and mother, a person with a second DUI causing death, a murder charge and possibly life in prison, Drive like your LIFE DEPENDS on it, you can't afford not to.
Debra garnreiter October 08, 2012 at 03:39 PM
What a blessing ! This man found a new point of view from a tragedy!
Sherri Sales October 08, 2012 at 03:56 PM
This world would be a better place if everyone would pause and think of someone else 1st before rushing to their own needs.
Tony Maurillo October 08, 2012 at 03:57 PM
What an awe inspiring story..... That young man who helped him is an angel and I think he knows it but is content just knowing that he helped a fellow human in need. My prayers and sorrow to this woman who was severely injured. Her life and the lives around her were changed forever in just a tragic instant. Compassion abounds but does little to change the circumstances. All the more reason to question ourselves when driving. Who's life may I disrupt forever if I am not being a responsible driver? Praying for this woman and all concerned... Tony
Karen October 08, 2012 at 06:24 PM
So very sad. I hope she makes a strong recovery.
Kathi October 08, 2012 at 07:29 PM
Wow. Was wishing I could give a thumbs up to these posts above & to the story. I especially appreciated what Tom wrote. & it appears that possibly both the injured woman & the driver may have made decisions that are now regrettable. Could we also get a follow up on whether they found what the driver threw over the fence? That sounds rather suspicious. But also we don't know, that I have heard at least who legally had the right of way. But no matter who had legal right of way, they both were there & made decisions that have been costly. She made a decision to step off the curb in the cross walk. Did she look at all to make sure it was safe to do so? So many pedestrians just step out into streets or walk out into areas where cars are driving without 1st checking to make sure it is safe to do so--apparently assuming that drivers are paying attention & will stop for them. Very dangerous assumption, although usually they do--is a life worth assuming rather than verifying? & what was the driver doing? Was he speeding? Even if he had legal right of way, we still are supposed to be watching in front & paying strict attention to our driving so that if someone does step out when they aren't supposed to we can swerve (after being aware of what is around us to know that is safe) or stop in time. So we don't know, but it is likely that both played a part in choices that led to this that if either or both had been paying better attention could have been avoided.
Colleen Verruto October 08, 2012 at 09:22 PM
Tears I also want to meet that guy! I'm sharing this story with my family
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:36 PM
@Ed: Me, too.
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:37 PM
@Tom: Thanks. I am no worried about my driving, just everyone else around me.
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:37 PM
Debra: He is an inspiration.
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:38 PM
@Sherri: You're right.
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:38 PM
Thanks Tony: We are all praying for her. Be sure to read tomorrow.
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:39 PM
Karen: She has a lot of people rooting for her, read tomorrow.
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 08, 2012 at 09:39 PM
Colleen: He is truly a person who believes in the glass if half full! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and with your family.
Leonard Kinkade October 09, 2012 at 05:15 AM
Until LN develops a reputation of strict traffic enforcement you’re going to continue to have individuals speeding through our city, injuring our friends and neighbors. We need more citations for traffic violations, such as speeding, following to close, unsafe lane changes, failure to yield to pedestrians in crosswalks etc. Currently, it seems like all these errant drivers see LN pedestrians as “moving targets”
Debbie L. Sklar (Editor) October 09, 2012 at 05:21 PM
Leonard: You are so right!

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